Sex and Relationship
INTIMACY, SEX AND RELATIONSHIP
The Pleasure Principal
Getting the love you want, starting with yourself
“To love at all is to be vulnerable. Love anything and your heart will be wrung and possibly broken. If you want to make sure of keeping it intact you must give it to no one, not even an animal. Wrap it carefully round with hobbies and little luxuries; avoid all entanglements. Lock it up safe in the casket or coffin of your selfishness. But in that casket, safe, dark, motionless, airless, it will change. It will not be broken; it will become unbreakable, impenetrable, irredeemable. To love is to be vulnerable.”
– C.S. Lewis, The Four Loves
It is the holistic belief at the D-I-V Design Agency that living a life by design means understanding your relationship to yourself, understanding your relationship to others and the world, and understanding your relationship to that which causes you joy and giving name to these and expressing these. We believe these are essential to saving lives and marriages or relationships. It helps to understand that there are three facets to any relationship: two individuals and the entity of the relationship itself.
A large part of being authentic is knowing oneself and then sharing that intimate knowledge of yourself with another lovingly. It involves continued recognition of each individual as an individual, but also as attached to a greater whole. It involves communication of those needs and a space for awareness of Self and Other. In this space of integration and communication, intimacy and joy and maturity, as well as self-awareness and deeper knowledge of Other, can flourish.
Regardless your relational status, learning how to understand your needs and desires, how to communicate that with another, and negotiating a successful relationship with yourself and others are life-long skills to cultivate and hone as you grow and change.